A while back, my wife and I acted in a way that objectified women. And women hate being objectified, or so they say…
It turns out, if it is a woman doing the objectification, it is no problem, and in fact, it is welcomed. Women love wolf whistles, catcalls, use of “pussy”, “ass”, “tits”, “boobs”, and even “jugs” in the compliments they receive, IF those compliments are from women.
Enter Heather Thomas, a mini-skirt designer from Australia, specializing in “pussy-length” skirts.
Heather Thomas, Capitalizing on Women’s Objectification
My wife started facebook as “Kalo Hitty” (So this was just before facebook went on it’s “real name” rampage) But Heather approached her and said:
“Hi Kalo, I hope this finds you well. Sorry, its been awhile, life gets too darn busy!! lol I know we have never met, but its funny on FB with some, I feel like I know you a little from your lovely, cute, sexy posts! I love all your outfits! I design miniskirts and minidresses here in Australia and I see you love wearing minis too! I wish I had you as one of our models! You have a gorgeous figure and just amazing tits WOW I am jealous! You should be so proid of them!”
Flattering, coming from a woman. In fact, VALIDATING. Women often tear each other down in competitive battle. So this compliment coming from someone she didn’t know, well, it was pleasant. Not threatening at all. (Perception).
She then offers an exchange: “I would send you outfits and you can keep them in kind, if you like. Also would you be interested in being one of my reviewers on my designs and my models? I can tell you more about the process later and I would be happy to pay you if you do a good job!”
If you are wondering what Heather wants the reviews to contain, well, here you go, from Heather’s own request:
“Please feel free to just try a couple of reviews. A good example to follow would be Joanne Johns in album 9. Just as a guide. All I ask is that you go into lots of detail about the miniskirts and mindresses and also affirm each model’s tits, legs and their pussy high hemlines with each review. [W]e call these very short minis …. pussy high minis or pussy skimming minis etc. Also use the word titties for the smaller ladies and tits for the larger ladies. Is that all ok?”
Keep in mind, I’m in full admission that, since this was from a woman,n I acted as if it was all just standard operating procedure. But there is a really fucked up thing going on here. While men WANT to be transparent and open with women, they are ridiculed, scorned, and even threatened if they act in the same manner that Heather is prescribing for my wife.
We’re pretty tight, my wife and I, and I’m a linguist, so I worded the reviews. Honestly, it was a positive experience to be able to say these things, while not having it received as acceptable and approved.”
Here’s what happened. We did a review. We asked (through Kalo’s account) “Give me feedback on what you like or would change.”
“oh wow!!!!!!!!! that is just perfect well done!! Wow you are definitely IN!! gosh hunni you are such a natural at this”
We told her right up front: “We double teamed it with the wording. Jay helped on this one. He’s loving it too. Shhhhh.”
Heather said: “please feel free to keep going!”
Then this: “really be as sexy as you like, really go for it!! Be as creative as you like and really draw attention to their pussy revealing hemlines. Also for the bigger ladies you can say jugs too, if you want to.”
Understand that Heather is directing the terminology here, and yet we fell for this. Because it was FUN, and no one was harmed.
But, if it had been known that a man was participating in this? Crucifixion would have been suggested.
Heather okayed that, however. And, while it was really bizarre to have the opportunity to say these things freely, I did it in a respectful way. And Heather confirmed that:
“Got it Kalo thank you so much -really you have a delightful and playful, yet honouring and affirming way with words -my models will be stoked!!!! xo”
Then, it started to dawn on me. “Wait a fucking minute. If the models KNEW it was a man, someone would be quick to scream sexual harassment!”
To be totally transparent, I HELD BACK on following Heather’s advice of being so explicit. And so Heather encouraged amping it up even more: “all I would say is just be even sexier with the models, give them everything you have got hun, lots of description about their tits, nipples and draw lots of attnetion to their pussy. Its nice if you address the models personally e.g. “her braless tits” or ‘your lovely big jugs” or ‘her sweet pussy’ etc hope that helps”
That’s when it started creeping me out. Yep. Sexually explicit, raw, in-your-face me. I’m as sexually provocative as I can be. And I was officially creeped the fuck out.
See, Heather is selling designs off of this bullshit. And so women seeking validation are probably lining up, seeing that other women will affirm her using these sexually explicit terms, well, it’s just totally fucking bizarre.
Now, let me give you a few examples of how this works for her.
This picture here:
Got these comments.
You can click on the pics here for a larger version. But if a man said these things? The venom of “pervert”, “creep”, “sicko”, etc would be hurled about immediately. Heather, however, has used this same objectification to build a business on, and the women that are her customers, duped that they are being objectified, because this affirmation is from women, jump on board eagerly, blind to the fact that they ARE what they claim to HATE.
I call bullshit. There’s a snake in the woodpile here, somewhere.
That’s just the beginning, however. It gets better (or worse, depending on how you’re taking this)
This picture right here
Has a comment on it from a woman, that would be perceived as sexual harassment, if it had been issued by a man on a facebook post:
“Would love to cop a nice feel”… Yeah. And this is acceptable, and a total double standard, because it comes from a woman. And this is how Heather makes money.
This one is even more disturbing, because it mentions pussy licks:
See the last comment, if the other comments don’t rattle you enough.
Are you seriously confused yet? Women can say these things with impunity, because the feminist ideology is that MEN are the threat. MEN, if they say these things, are “DISrespecting” women’s bodies. And yet, here it is, for you to view. Women do it without a shred of backlash.
Last comment using “jugs”
If a man told a woman how he enjoyed her “ample jugs”, well, he wouldn’t live to write this article.
We asked her why men were excluded from her albums.
“So, in short, as a collective of women interested in uplifting, sexy, fem fashion to limit the reviewing to a womens-only forum. This has been a welcome change to the historic male orientated narrative.”
Marcy asked: “Is it still ok that jay is joining me in my expression?”
Heather responds: “Yes that’s ok I guess, in a way I would prefer your own reviews, but I guess as long as it still reflects what your expression is mainly xo”
So Heather is willing to compromise, as long as no one knows about it. Well, now they know. Fuck feminism that purports to honor women, and at the same time exploits them for monetary gain.
That’s Heather Thomas.
We approached her again about her doing this in a way that objectifies women, and she blocked the friendship connection on facebook.
If you want more of this tripe, visit her facebook page at:
In summary, I am disgusted that a woman objectifies women, claiming that she’s excluding the “male orientated narrative” all while allowing it under the table.
Women, she’s pimping you. I typed this with my middle finger firmly erected to the double standard.